The Wedding Officiant’s Sermon is a precious message of blessing and wisdom delivered as the bride and groom begin a new life together. It contains warm advice and encouragement for the couple to recognize and respect each other’s differences3 and to grow in love.

 

Theme – Accepting each other’s differences opens the way

I would like to extend my heartfelt congratulations to the groom, ○○○, and the bride, ○○○, on their wedding, which will take place at the beginning of the long-awaited ○○○ year.
I believe that the seniors and adults among you will have many good things to say about the requirements of a happy family, but I would like to talk about sincerity and doing one’s best.
Since the bride and groom grew up in the same environment and know each other well, I would like to say one more thing, which is that we must recognize differences and differences.
I assumed that we would think and act the same, but in reality I see many differences. I realize that the customs and ways of doing things in both families, even the taste of food and the order of doing housework, are different. Although differences and dissimilarities are natural, we often blame and conflict with each other because of differences and dissimilarities.
There are no two trees on this earth that look exactly alike, and there are no two pebbles in a stream that look exactly alike. Even the shape of clouds in the sky is not the same, and it is said that the snow that falls in winter is not the same at all. Differences and disparities between people should be natural, and it is important to have an attitude of understanding them. If you develop such an understanding, you will be the beneficiary. You can educate your children while recognizing their differences and pursue true happiness in your family.
Our families will be full of joy and wonder if we live a life that is faithful to the “present moment.
The bride and groom will also find their lives most beautiful and their new home most happy when they do their best in the present moment.
Finally, I would like to ask the guests who have come to this ceremony to pray that the new home they are building will be the happiest, most exemplary, and proudest home.
Thank you very much.

 

 

Theme – Together but independent

I couldn’t refuse the request of a junior I’ve known for a long time, so I ended up officiating at a wedding, something I don’t usually do. I’m sure you feel the same way, but it’s great to be able to attend a bride and groom’s wedding and offer my congratulations.
At a dinner party where friends in their late 60s got together to have fun, there was one person who talked more excitedly than anyone else. This person was the one who had just held her husband’s funeral a few days earlier. The friend next to her must have asked, “Why are you talking so much? Hey, when your husband died, he said that if you continue to go out as you usually do, he will rise from the grave and come after you to take your soul. But how long has it been since you sent him away? How can you walk around like this? Then the friend said, “It’s okay. When I buried him, I buried him face down, so he’s probably digging into the ground right now!
What do you think?
As I listened to this story, I wondered what my wife, who has lived with me for 20 years, would think later. If she had a really happy marriage, she would be able to make lighthearted jokes like this man, and if not, she would not be able to feel comfortable.
I hope you both do your best for each other, but don’t forget that you are two independent individuals, and don’t force the other person to be obsessed with you or to sacrifice himself for you. I think the most important thing is to consider others first and make concessions before making demands.
Why is the man like that? Why is that woman like that? Don’t say that. The person you meet before marriage may not be the person you imagined. Instead, look closely at the person you meet, understand their characteristics, and accept them as they are.
There must be a reason why you chose this person out of all the people in the world. I think it is very important and fortunate to have someone who is always by your side, someone you can open up to, talk to and rely on. What do I think a good friend is? I hope you will be that kind of friend to others. Always remember how precious every moment you spend together is.
If you are so fond of your partner, check from time to time to see if he is neglecting to look around. It is natural for you to change to some extent after marriage. However, it would be a problem if you were seen as a cold person by your family, friends, relatives, and even the community you belong to.
Try to help the bride and groom’s families become closer. I’m not saying that you should worry about how others will judge you. I’m saying that you should trust each other and handle things wisely. Sometimes, during late-night drinking sessions among men, they send text messages to their wives, who are waiting for their husbands at home at the same time. “I’m having a hard time getting away, so I’ll be late! I love you.” If you’re in your fifth year of marriage, there’s a good chance you won’t get a reply. If you wrote, “I get it. I’ll forgive you if you give me 200,000 won in special allowance,” your wife will probably give you a thumbs up and you’ll give her a nice gift.
Thank you, Mr. and Mrs. ○○○, the groom’s parents, and Mrs. ○○○, the bride’s mother, and I believe Mr. ○○○, the bride’s father, is here with us. I hope the bride and groom will do their best for their parents.
Thank you all for coming to celebrate with us.

 

 

Theme – Being a couple who understands each other’s differences

I would like to extend my heartfelt congratulations to the groom, Mr. ○○○, and the bride, Mrs. ○○○, on their wedding, which will take place at the beginning of the long-awaited year 20XX.
I believe that the seniors and adults among you will have many good things to say about the requirements of a happy family, but I would like to talk about sincerity and doing one’s best.
Since the bride and groom grew up in the same environment and know each other well, I would like to say one more thing, which is that we must accept differences and otherness.
We often assume that we think and act the same way, but in reality we see many differences. We realize that the customs and ways of doing things in both families are different, and even the taste of food and the order of doing housework are different.
Differences and dissimilarities are natural, but we often blame and conflict with each other because of the differences and dissimilarities.
There are no two trees on this earth that are exactly alike, and there are no two pebbles in a stream that are exactly alike. Even the shape of clouds in the sky is not the same, and it is said that the snow that falls in winter is not the same at all.
Differences and disparities between people should be natural, and it is important to have an attitude of understanding them. If you develop such an understanding, you will be the beneficiary. You can educate your children while recognizing their differences and pursue true happiness in your family.
Our families will be full of joy and wonder if we live a life that is faithful to the “present moment.
The bride and groom will also make your life the most beautiful and your new home the happiest when you do your best in the present moment.
Finally, I would like to ask the guests who have come to this ceremony to pray that the new home they are building will be the happiest, most exemplary, and proudest home.
Thank you.

 

 

Theme – I hope that you will become a couple who regard each other’s existence as air

This wedding that you have taken the time to attend today has a special history behind it, so it seems to have a deeper meaning. When I recently heard the groom, ○○○, tell the story of how he came to be here today and the struggles he faced before deciding to get married, those stories made me think a lot. What is happiness? What is love?
Happiness comes from love. Happiness and love are always together and never separate. You are happy because you love, and you can love more because you are happy.
The man and woman who are here now are pledging their love to many people as witnesses to love and to be happy. Most of you know this because you have been married and had children.
As you go through life, you forget the happiest and best moments of your life, which is today, your wedding day. But I think this is the happiest moment for the bride and groom that they have ever experienced.
Bride and groom, please remember this moment for the rest of your lives.
Two people who are completely different from each other have lived completely different lives and now have to spend the same space and time together. This can lead to conflicts and disagreements. If these conflicts and disagreements are not resolved and accumulate, you may think that the love you felt for each other no longer shines. You may feel that your existence is so natural that it is not precious.
Whenever this happens, remember this moment right now.
They are so common that we take them for granted, but they are indispensable.
We take air for granted, so we don’t realize how precious it is. But it is not easy to survive in water without air for more than three minutes. The same is true for a married couple.
It is so common that we take it for granted, but it is so precious, so please keep that in mind as you live your married life.
Now the bride and groom are each other’s most precious family, friend, and lover in the world.
There will be many difficulties ahead of them, but I hope that they will overcome them together and cherish each other’s presence.
I sincerely congratulate the bride and groom on their marriage.
Thank you.

 

 

Topic – Being a couple who treat each other with respect

Hello everyone. I am Professor ○○○ from ○○ University who is officiating at today’s wedding.
I am also the professor who has closely observed the bride and groom’s love.
Therefore, I feel more touched and happy than anyone else today as these two beautiful students start a new family.
Today’s groom, ○○○-kun, graduated from university with excellent grades, returned from studying abroad, and was scouted by a promising company. He is a rare, wonderful young man with a polite and faithful personality.
What about the bride, ○○○-san? She is my favorite student who was the brightest of the bright when she was in college, and I keep her close to watch her grow.
They are said to be a perfect match. The two people in front of me are a beautiful and confident couple who are not ashamed of each other.
As a teacher at the university or a senior in life, I would like to say that I hope you will be more polite to each other in the future.
Of course, it is clear that a couple is closer and more intimate than anyone else they meet in their lives. Since ancient times, a couple has been perceived as the closest and most supportive of each other without any distance.
This is clearly evident in Korea’s kinship system.
Korea is a country where the concept of chonsu is well developed. Chonsu shows the hierarchical order and also the distance between people. The closest relationship is the chonsu between parents and children. But do you know how many chonsu there are between a married couple?
It is a village without a clan. This clearly shows that a couple is a close relationship, a relationship formed by a destiny.
However, because we are in a relationship where we can share honest stories with each other like this, we often become stingy and harsh with each other’s spouses over time. Without saying thank you or sorry, we treat each other bluntly and harshly.
I hope that the two people in front of me will not do that.
We are polite and courteous only in front of people in need, but in fact, the closer the relationship, the more polite we should be to each other and make sure that our intentions are not misunderstood.
Without hurting each other,
How can a family not be harmonious if they treat each other gently and politely so as not to hurt or harm each other?
I will end my speech by praying that your marriage will continue to be as beautiful and sunny as a day after rain.
Thank you to all the guests and relatives who have joined us today.

 

 

Topic – Be a couple who respects each other

Hello, everyone. The main points of the wedding ceremony are that the bride and groom should understand and love each other, the groom should take the lead in showing filial piety to his parents-in-law, and the bride should be filial to her parents-in-law and friendly to her brothers. They are all correct. But I began to wonder whether the groom and the bride would really listen to and engrave in their hearts the ordinary words that are not particularly special at the wedding.
There are certain things that a man and a woman need to work on throughout their life together. What are they? There is one thing that is most important between a married couple. It is respect. Everyone wants to be respected. There is nothing more pleasant than being respected by your partner.
Therefore, I would like to encourage every bride and groom to work on becoming a person who is respected by their partner. If a wife is respected by her husband, she will be a person who does all the things her husband wants her to do, such as filial piety, brotherhood, and kindness to neighbors. If a husband is respected by his wife, he will be a person who is well-behaved in his wife’s family home and will be socially recognized. However, it is not easy for a person to be respected by his mate. What should a husband do to be respected by his wife?
If you truly love your wife, serve her, protect her, respect your parents-in-law and be filial to your parents, and do all the good things you can, you will be respected. If you are not righteous in your words and deeds, you will not be respected. This respect is not something that can be attained at will. The nature of respect is to be moved by everything and to settle naturally in your heart. On the other hand, if a woman is respected by her husband, it will be the same as the case of the husband mentioned above.
The first thing to achieve respect between a couple is to serve the other person unconditionally. It is not a service that is done consciously, but a service that is done unconsciously. It begins with trusting and loving the other person.
Even if you cannot serve the whole society, serve your only wife or husband passionately. You will never regret it. Please keep this in mind and have a happy marriage.

 

 

Theme – Be a couple who always treat each other with sincerity

Congratulations on the marriage of ○○-kun and ○○-yang. It is said that people speak about 5 million words in a lifetime. What I am about to say is just a few words in that category, but I have given this speech a lot of thought.
I, who have not had much experience in life, have thought deeply about what to say to the newlyweds. Although the words I am going to say may not be new and may not have a noble value, they are common knowledge, so I would appreciate it if the bride and groom, as well as the guests, would listen carefully to what I have carefully prepared.
There are three things I want to talk about today.
The first is about destiny, the second is about the fundamental virtues of marriage, and the third is about style and sincerity.
First, we must think deeply about the meaning of destiny.
It is a good time and a good relationship that we are able to meet here today. The relationship between these two people is not an ordinary one, and the fact that I and the guests are able to meet like this is also the result of a deep relationship. It is said that even a touch on the collar is the result of a lifelong relationship, and it is no wonder that we are able to meet in such a meaningful place.
If you have been brought together by fate, why not cherish the relationship you have already formed?
Let your wife serve you as her king and you treat her as your queen. Then your children will grow up to be princes and princesses.
Second, human beings are creatures that live together.
From now on, you will live together, face to face, feel each other’s hearts, and support each other. As a couple living together, not alone, they should speak and think lovingly with a bright face.
If they always speak cheerfully, act kindly, and treat each other like noble guests, their family will naturally become happy.
Put your heart into everything you do. When you treat your parents, your wife, and your husband, put your heart into everything you do. Of course, you should also put your heart into having children. Children do not come naturally.
If you put your whole heart into praying for a good relationship, a good soul will enter your house and be born as a good child.
What could be better than that, if the endless devotion you put into every moment of your life eventually leads to a wonderful and precious life?
Although it was a short time, I hope that the words I said as a senior will remain in the hearts of these couples.
I sincerely hope that this good relationship will continue forever as a happy relationship.

 

 

Theme – Be a wise couple that brings out each other’s strengths

Today, as the officiant at this meaningful occasion of the birth of this beautiful and precious couple, I would like to conclude my speech with a few words of advice as I officiate at their worthwhile marriage.
First, I urge them to build their marriage on faith. This is possible if they respect each other’s character and value their partner. In fact, it is impossible to build peace in the family without faith.
The quarrels between couples that occur in raising a family are not caused by a significant difference in family tradition, family ideology, or personal philosophy or ideology. It is the case when a couple’s trust begins to erode and conflict begins to arise over a single word of complaint or curse that is casually uttered, or a cigarette butt or a single sock that is thrown away.
The more you resent the other person’s clumsy behavior, the more you begin to see him or her from a distorted perspective, which deepens the pit of mistrust. Therefore, even if you are close to your spouse, in order to build unshakable trust, you should be more diligent in establishing the right attitude toward life, such as understanding each other’s feelings and controlling even the smallest words and actions, as if avoiding what the other person dislikes.
Second, I urge both of you to encourage each other’s strengths and work to lift your partner’s spirits. This begins with turning a blind eye to your partner’s shortcomings, which means understanding your partner. Understanding leads to forgiveness, which serves as a value that lifts your partner’s spirits, and that forgiveness is what gives you the strength to keep your marriage from falling apart. The purpose of marriage is not for two people to think the same way, but for two people to think together. It is important for a couple to recognize this and to try to cover each other’s shortcomings and bring out each other’s strengths.
Marriage is a bond of destiny, but love is a bond of will. Marriage is a process of forming a couple through deep reasons and good relationships, but married love is a process of mutual effort in which two people pursue happiness by paying sincere attention to each other and filling each other’s shortcomings, and it should be the product of that will. From now on, the two of you should not try to break each other’s spirit by taking advantage of each other’s shortcomings, but rather encourage each other’s strengths and strengthen each other’s pride.
Third, the couple should always talk to each other. Talking will build affection and a strong sense of conjugal love. Talking brings understanding, and understanding brings trust, and trust gives the other person courage and confidence. If something is suspicious and confused, the two must resolve the conflict through dialogue, asking calmly and answering seriously. Unnecessary silence gives rise to misconceptions that lead to much speculation, prejudice, and misunderstanding. Dialogue” means “discussion. From now on, when you decide something trivial, make sure you discuss it with the other person before you make a decision together.
“Trivial” things, but I believe that if you just keep this in mind, you will live happily in the future.
“Congratulations on your marriage.
“Thank you.”

 

 

Topic – Have a spirit of mutual respect

On behalf of the bride and groom’s family and relatives, I would like to thank you all for coming here today to celebrate the happy future of the bride and groom.
Now, I would like to make four requests of you. I hope the bride and groom will listen to me without any other thoughts.
The first request is how we should think of our spouses.
There are some things that husbands and wives say to each other. Among the things that husbands say to their wives are things like, “What is your wife doing at home? Among the things that wives say to their husbands are things like, “Don’t you have hands?” Raise your hand if you have never said any of these things. I’m sure there are not many of you.
I want to say this to the groom. The bride does not exist for the groom. The groom exists for the bride.
I also want to say to the bride. The bride does not exist for the groom. The bride exists for the groom.
From the moment you think like this, miracles will happen.
The second thing I want to say to both of you is how to live your lives.
I hope that both of you will live with a disciple’s mind. I hope that you will live by the example of the lives that others have lived so brilliantly.
I would like to ask the groom. I can’t think of what I want you to do, so please think of what you want the groom to do first.
I would like to ask the bride and groom.
It is said that ducklings recognize their mother as the first moving animal they see in the world. So they imitate her without knowing the meaning of it. You are going to have a baby soon, aren’t you? Your baby is like a duckling just hatched from an egg. You are the universe for your baby. So set a good example for your baby.
Then the two of you will be a great couple, and your family will be a blessed family.
You should always think that your thoughts may not be right, so that your spouse will have something to fill. Love only exists between spouses who think they lack love. The effort to fill the lack is love.
I hope you will take what I have said today to heart and become a great couple.
Be happy.

 

 

Theme – Successful couples serving each other

Today we are gathered here to celebrate the marriage of two young men.
All of you gathered here are celebrating the marriage of the two of you with one mind.
I would like to give you some advice as you begin a new life together.
First of all, a couple grows by learning. A learner can recover from failure, and a learner always succeeds.
A husband and wife have the ability to serve each other. A wife should serve her husband, and a husband should serve his wife. A couple that takes care of each other to serve each other well becomes a successful couple.
The second is to let go of resentment and fear.
In the best-selling book The Power of Positive Thinking, author Joel Osteen points out that “no matter how much success you achieve, you cannot achieve true happiness if the roots of resentment pollute your life. Unless you forgive the person who hurt you or your own mistakes and have a positive attitude, the “toxic elements of the mind” in your subconscious will surface from time to time and pollute your life. If you have resentment or fear toward each other, please take this opportunity to clear it up.
There was a bird with only one wing. It is called the Chinese heron. So this bird with only one wing cannot fly until it meets another bird with another wing. The Chinese egret in this legend can only fly to the big sky when it meets another bird with another wing one day.
There is a fish that lives in the water with the same story. It is a fish with only one eye. This fish cannot swim freely until it meets another fish with only one eye.
These two have been living with one wing, but now they have found one wing and one eye. Therefore, their life begins in a new paradise.
The two should be united not only in spirit, but also in their personal growth and work. They should evolve together throughout their lives. The husband should be interested in what his wife is doing, both spiritually and in her work, and the wife should be interested in what her husband is doing. This is how love grows, when they help each other spiritually and practically, and when they help each other. No one in this world thinks of his husband as much as his wife does, and no one thinks of his wife as much as his husband does. It is good to be a couple who are always interested in each other’s work, who not only grow as human beings but also discuss work problems and daily activities together.
I hope you will remember today’s advice and use it in your marriage.
Once again, congratulations on your marriage.
Thank you.