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Topic – Worry should not last more than ten minutes

Hello, everyone.
Ernie J Zelinsky’s The Joy of Slow Living says this: “Forty percent of our worries are about events that will never happen, 30 percent are about events that have already happened, 22 percent are about trivial events, and 4 percent are about events that we cannot change.”
Only the remaining 4% are real events that we can deal with.
In other words, 96% of our worries are unnecessary.
I classify my worries into only two categories.
The worries that I can solve and the ones that I cannot.
What if it rains tomorrow?
Just bring an umbrella.
Because stopping the rain is beyond my ability.
That is not my domain.
It is right to leave matters that belong to the realm of heaven to heaven.
You should only worry about and find solutions to problems that you can solve yourself.
I am neither an optimist nor a pessimist.
I just try to accurately identify the core of my worries and solve the problems.
Now, let’s say you have some worries.
Does worrying about a problem by lying down with your head wrapped up for a few days solve it?
Does going to a quiet beach and resting for a few days give you an idea of how to solve it?
No, it doesn’t.
We can think about a problem for less than 10 minutes.
Whatever worries you have, write them down on paper.
It is undoubtedly only a few lines.
If the answer to the problem that is only a few lines cannot be found in 10 minutes, it is not a problem that can be solved on its own.
However, most people spend a day, a month, and a year wasting time by extending that 10 minutes.
I have never seen anyone who says that nothing good happens in life even though they get up early in the morning, work out, study, and make the most of their efforts to socialize.
Don’t sigh because you have a lot of worries.
I hope you will identify the core of the problem accurately, find a solution, and implement it as it is.
If you can’t find a solution, it’s best to ignore it.
If the result is the same whether you worry or not, then I would advise you to worry for only 10 minutes.
You must know how to forget.
To forget is not a skill, but rather a state of happiness.
Thank you for listening.

 

 

Topic – Active listening is an active conversation behavior

The hardest thing in the world.
What is it? I think it is listening carefully.
Listening carefully to the other person’s arguments is a very active act.
First of all, I cannot think of anything else, I have to keep eye contact with them and go through a process of exploration with my gaze and facial expressions, I have to respond appropriately, and I have to catch the right moment to say what I want to say.
So, I can only listen well if I concentrate by keeping all my nerves on edge.
Listening to others is important for everyone.
This is because there is nothing more unpleasant than someone talking loudly to someone who is looking into the distance.
If you feel that your children are not following you well, you should first look at whether you are listening to them well.
If you feel that your employees are subtly distancing themselves from you, you should reflect on whether you are not only talking but also listening to others.
Listening is the only way to show that you respect the person.
Only then can an intimate relationship be formed.
In the end, the most effective way to communicate is to listen well.
To achieve effective listening, it is recommended to take notes while making eye contact.
This will convey the message that you are listening with interest.
Also, you should try to accept the other person’s story as it is without making hasty judgments.
This is because unsolicited advice can hurt the other person.
After listening to the other person from start to finish, you should think deeply and then express your thoughts.
Above all, sincerity is the most important thing.
If you pretend to listen to someone just because you are there, you may get in trouble.

 

 

Topic – Being good at speaking starts with being good at listening

Hello, everyone.
This is ○○○. Hello.
If a conversation with three people can change your life, how would you spend those three minutes?
Three minutes is a short time, but it is also a long time.
I think you have come all this way because you want to know how to open the closed minds of others and make them accept you in a short time with an impact.
However, what I want to talk about in this time is not the rules or know-how of how to speak well. I just want to go back to the principles and fundamentals and think about it.
Let’s take a look at the characteristics of a person who speaks well.
The most prominent common feature of people who are good at speaking is that they are good listeners.
God gave humans one mouth, two ears, and eyes. This is because it is more important to see and listen than to speak.
Listening is important because it can lead to a situation where you put yourself in someone else’s shoes.
Audiences tend to close their hearts.
“Okay, let’s see what you have to say,” ‘Let’s see how good you are,’ ‘Try to move me.’ This is the mindset.
People who are good at speaking can open the hearts of their audience in 10 minutes, but those who are not can open their hearts even if given an hour.
Knowing that we may one day be in this position, that is, in a position to listen rather than speak, and to be in a position to speak from a position of listening, we must understand the position of the audience in order to know the other person’s mind and open their minds.
The fastest and most effective way to do this is to listen well.
In fact, the characteristics of a talented host or a good speaker are that they listen to and pay attention to what guests say.
When you listen like that, you indirectly experience the lives of others through their words. And you will gain more common sense and knowledge.
If you are given three minutes to persuade someone, would it be better to listen to what others say and have common sense in various fields, or would it be better not to?
You came here to learn speech skills, but listening is the first step to becoming a good speaker.
Get into the habit of listening to others with both ears and an open mind. Then, one day, you will be a skilled speaker who can persuade others in three minutes.
Thank you for listening to me so far.

 

 

Theme – You must be humble

Mang Sa-seong, who became the governor of Paju County in Gyeonggi Province at the age of 20 after passing the state examination at the young age of 19, was full of arrogance.
One day, he visited a Zen monk and asked him,
“What do you think is the best motto for me to follow as the person in charge of governing this town?”
The Zen monk replied,
“That’s easy. You just need to do good deeds and avoid doing bad things.”
“Such a thing is common knowledge even for a child, and that’s all you have to say to me after coming all this way?“
Mang Sa-seong said arrogantly and tried to get up from his seat.
The monk stopped him and said, ‘Have a cup of tea.’
He pretended to give in and sat down.
But the monk kept pouring tea into his cup until it overflowed.
”Monk, the tea is overflowing and ruining the floor.”
Mang Sa-seong shouted, but the monk continued to pour the tea into the teacup until it was overflowing.
Then, he looked at Mang Sa-seong, who was very angry, and said,
“You know that the tea water overflows and soaks the floor, but do you not know that knowledge overflows and destroys one’s character?”
At this one word from the monk, Meng Saisheng blushed with shame and hastily got up to open the door and leave.
But then he bumped into the door, and the monk smiled and said,
“If you bow your head, you won’t bump into anything.”
Whether it is thoughts, wealth, or water, you should fill them up to the right amount.
You should take the old saying, “If you go overboard, you will be worse off than if you had not gone overboard,” as a lesson learned.
You can see the unhappiness that comes from not knowing the right amount of satisfaction.
“The more ripe the rice is, the lower its head is.” While frequently telling the proverb “Be polite to others so that politeness will be instilled in you,” and treating others with politeness and courtesy so that children can learn by watching and imitating them.
Isn’t that true education?
Thank you for listening.

 

 

Theme – We, who have internalized competition

Some say that we grow up by confronting someone and being at odds with the world.
You can’t grow if you don’t confront the world.
Those who have no social life can’t be said to know the world.
There is a sense of alienation between the society reflected on television and the society that you see and experience firsthand.
There is a big difference between watching the trash cans next to the subway all night and entering the trash cans yourself and welcoming the dawn.
For those who have not experienced it, the answer is clear.
Korean society has lived through a particularly turbulent history.
Colonial experience and liberation, ideological wars and a long period of military dictatorship. Survival was always the most important thing.
How will we survive? It is an indomitable nation that has endured humiliation and insult while still trying to survive.
People move quickly and want results, and my pace is also getting faster.
We live in an age of speed, and if we cannot keep up with the speed of the times, we will lose the survival game.
We may be victims of speed.
TV survival games ‘I Am a Singer’, ‘New Employee’, ‘Superstar K’, ‘Great Birth’, ‘Miracle Audition’.
A game where there is always a loser and a winner.
A game in which someone has to be eliminated one by one, like a game of musical chairs.
We are indifferent to the scene of a cruel game where you have to push someone away with your elbow to win.
We have become accustomed to a world that only remembers the first place.
“How will I live tomorrow?”
The fear of survival is growing.
Hasn’t competition become a logic that alienates humans rather than a logic for the development of human society?
Have I not treated those who have lost the competition with indifference?
High school students are competing for entrance exams, entrance exams are competing for jobs, jobs are competing for promotions, and promotions are followed by restructuring and early retirement.
In retrospect, no one has ever taught me the beauty of solidarity, and I have never been advised to search for my true self.
Is the word “soul” or “inner self” a luxury that does not pay the labor cost?
I am afraid of saying, “I am competitive.”
They are afraid of internalizing competition.

 

 

Theme – Let’s not harm our health with worries

More people than you might think are obsessed with worries and are unable to enjoy the happiness they have in objective terms, and are obsessed with anxiety and fear.
There is a person who has earned enough money to be envied for his self-made wealth and has a stable business.
But he says this.
“Teacher, I’m too embarrassed to even talk about it, but I’m tormented by the fear that I might die young.”
A handsome man in his mid-40s who is as strong as an athlete, he had to undergo three annual checkups at different university hospital checkup centers because of his ‘health concerns’.
The results were normal.
Even though the doctors told her, “Don’t worry, you’re healthy, so go with peace of mind,” the peace didn’t last long.
After the interview, it turned out that she had health anxiety accompanied by depression, which improved with counseling and medication, and she is now doing well.
As such, increased depression and other mental illnesses can cause symptoms of pathological levels of worry.
So is worrying itself pathological? Not necessarily.
Generally, about 70% of our thoughts are negative.
In other words, it is normal for negative thoughts to be constantly produced in the brain.
However, the problem is that you cling to that negative thought.
I have had that experience, too.
I thought there was a lot of foam in my urine, but that day, “If there is a lot of foam, it is suspected to be proteinuria. was already a patient, worrying about taking lectures, diagnosing himself, dialysis, and even kidney transplantation.
The next day, I had a urine test and waited anxiously for the test results. When I heard that I was normal, I couldn’t help but smile bitterly as I saw myself shaking with relief as if I had just been given new life.
So, is a person with many worries an inferior person? No, they are not.
In fact, ‘worry’ is a product of evolution for survival.
In other words, a person with many worries is a more evolved and resilient person.
Because worrying is preparing for the worst.
Worrying, or negative thoughts, is a signal that alerts us to danger.
The problem is that we get too caught up in that signal.
There are two main types of worries.
One is regret for the past, and the other is concern for the future.
Therefore, if you are preoccupied with worries, you will lose the present.
We feel real value and happiness in the present, and when the present disappears, we have problems in our lives and cannot be happy.
The key lies in the idea that ‘worrying is normal’.
It is necessary to train oneself to separate the ego that creates worries and the ego that deals with them.
Changing the definition of success also helps.
Great figures in history are often portrayed as people who sacrificed reality and worked hard with a clear sense of purpose.
However, a life that only looks to the future cannot be satisfied with reality, and it is always filled with worries about achieving goals.
In terms of mental health, the yardstick for success is “Am I doing something worthwhile today?”
We can succeed right now.
Please do not sacrifice today for the sake of the future.
Thank you for listening.

 

 

Topic – Reflections on Stereotypes and Change

Hello everyone.
I’m ○○○, and I’ll be teaching today.
Nice to meet you.
Today, as a member of self-development, I would like to talk about the topic of “ 고정관념과 변화” ( 고정관념과 변화 ).
Everyone knows that in order to survive in a rapidly changing world, we need to change and develop with the times.
When we see people who succeed in this trend, we all envy them, and we also know very well that stereotypes prevent us from changing and developing ourselves.
Despite the fact that stereotypes can be broken with little effort, many people do not try. This is because changing oneself means taking on the risks that come with it. However, if you give up because you are afraid of change, you have no right to envy others who have succeeded. There is something in common among successful people.
It is the knowledge of what to sacrifice and abandon in order to succeed.
In addition, in a world where we live together, isolation is too difficult. That is why we must embrace change.
If we think of the burden of risk as anticipation of something new rather than fear, isn’t there a possibility for change?
As we get older, we become more and more entrenched in our own stereotypes.
It is the accumulation of experience.
Sometimes it becomes wisdom of life, but sometimes it becomes a stereotype.
Let’s throw away the stereotypes that have kept us in fear.
And let’s all move forward together in the new clothes of change.
Thank you very much for listening to us so far.

 

 

Theme – Tears in Absolute Solitude

“I am not the same person I was a year ago. How fortunate is that?”
These are the words of golfing emperor Tiger Woods.
In a column in the latest issue of Newsweek, he writes, a little cliché-riddled but earnestly, that he has been reborn after the accident a year ago.
He alludes to the strange chain of passions and the resulting discord and breakup as the ‘car accident a year ago,’ which is probably the only way to put it.
What is important is that he has realized the small but precious values of life even belatedly.
For example, Tiger Woods said after his “car accident” that “bathing my son is much better than hitting a basket of golf balls” or that “making pasta for my kids is more rewarding than eating at a fancy restaurant,” which is very cliché, but as someone who fell from the highest level of artificial life and only became a family member later, he has every right to say that.
After all, Tiger Woods is just one person among 6 billion people, like us.
The record he leaves behind through competition can be broken at any time. When we say, “What remains in our lives forever is the love of family and the respect of others,” we also realize with a sober mind that a bowl of bean sprout soup is waiting for us, as if it was destined, in front of us, after we have barely woken up from a hangover.
A series of tears come to mind.
First of all, I think of Kim Yuna’s tears.
In February, at the Winter Olympics in Vancouver, she let loose her body, which had been rigorously trained for years, for four minutes and seven seconds.
Her body laughed at gravity, and she freely violated the magnetic fields of centrifugal and centripetal forces, showing a free flight like the fluttering of a butterfly with a highly restrained force.
And Kim Yuna cried.
The moment she stopped moving, she cried.
This is important.
She didn’t cry after she won the gold medal, but when she no longer needed to jump or spin, when she had exhausted the four minutes and seven seconds allotted to her, she cried.
That sticky liquid may have been an expression of the wonder of having reached a new horizon, which is completely different from the sense of accomplishment of a medal or victory, and the inexplicable feeling of relief that one has finally been able to put down a long-standing burden.
The tears of Chan Ho Park, the most successful Asian pitcher in Major League Baseball, are also worth remembering.
As the lyrics of a certain singer say, Park Chan-ho’s tears are also “moisture and salt and longing, memories and quarrels and sadness” that have been formed into drops.
Many sports players have shed tears like that on the ring this year.
What about Park Joo-young’s tears?
The Korean men’s national football team, led by coach Hong Myung-bo, lost 0-1 to the United Arab Emirates (UAE) at the 2010 Guangzhou Asian Games.
This dashed their dreams of winning a gold medal and denied several players, including Park Chu-young, the opportunity to serve in the military.
The bronze medal match was played after that. Surprisingly, the Korean team defeated Iran in the final minutes of the second half with a high level of concentration.
Is a bronze medal more valuable than a gold medal?
It may be a cliché, but Park Joo-young’s tears that burst out immediately after the match proved that such an expression was by no means a cliché, a platitude, or a trite encouragement wrapped in a nice paradox.
After crying profusely, Park Joo-young said, “I’ve learned how to live my life.” This is something you can say when you feel a precious, first-time experience of your life again.
The first time you kicked a ball, the first time you put on your soccer shoes, the first time you won or the first time you lost.
It was as if we had returned to the original state, like a first love.
Not in terms of the real-life value or weight of gold medals and bronze medals, but in the moment of experiencing the wonder and fresh air of the soccer field again, as he did when he first stepped onto the ground, Park Joo-young shed tears in that moment of nobility.
It is possible that we might shed a tear, too.
When we see the tense muscles on the nape of our colleague’s neck who is screaming at the top of his lungs while holding onto the microphone, when we see the back of our boss who is crying as he gets into a taxi, saying, “It’s cold, so go inside,” when we wake up in the early morning due to a hangover and suddenly look at the quiet and seemingly empty living room after drinking a bowl of cold water, we will undoubtedly shed a tear as we return to that very first state.
We must not forget that tears flowing in that absolute solitude are surprisingly powerful.
Thank you for listening.

 

 

Topic – Solitude

It is said that there is no contemplation without solitude.
Nevertheless, we are afraid of being lonely, afraid that we will become lonely ourselves.
I constantly strive and work hard to not be lonely.
In fact, enlightenment comes from solitary meditation.
“Learning without meditation is useless,” said Confucius.
Rather than suffering from loneliness, wouldn’t it be better for mental health to enjoy it as an opportunity for reflection and enlightenment?
I go to a restaurant for a meal.
A group of people standing in twos and threes stands out.
Go to the corner and take a seat where you won’t be seen by anyone.
Do you put on your earphones to listen to music, or fiddle with your cell phone?
Is being alone so awkward and nerve-wracking?
When I was studying in Japan, the Japanese custom of eating alone was strange and awkward at first, but once I got used to it, I found it to be so comfortable and pleasant.
The freedom to enjoy a meal in peace and quiet without having to worry about what others think is one of the great things about Japanese culture.
I even thought that it would be nice if there were more restaurants in Korea where it is easy for people to eat alone.
When I read the news that the number of loners who go out alone has increased, I secretly rejoiced.
There was also the profit motive of thinking, “What if I open a place like this in Korea when I retire? It would be quite a business.”
When everyone graduates from school, they think that they will be forever separated from studying.
But things are not always as they seem.
The motives for joining the company are different: some want to get promoted first, while others want to join a good company and enter the wider world.
When you look back on the days that have passed, all you have left are regrets and lingering feelings.
Why was I so lazy and negligent?
I open a book to start something again.
Study time.
This is the loneliest time for us.
A person cannot achieve development without being lonely.
It is good to be swept along and share stories and enjoyments, but it is also good to be lonely for the sake of my own development.
Thank you for listening.

 

 

Theme – Sometimes, a tree standing alone is more beautiful

Hello, everyone.
I am so grateful that more people have come than I expected.
Many of you have come with two people to today’s lecture, so I would like you to gently let go of the hand you have held and calmly sink into yourself for today.
I’m a lecturer who teaches How to Be Alone.
It’s already strange to say that you can become alone, isn’t it?
You may feel empty and lonely, like a widower or a widow.
But if you listen carefully to what I have to say today, you will learn the essence of life. So please pay close attention.
We feel a vague fear of being alone.
This is because the intense collectivism of Korean society has brainwashed us. We must do something in groups of two or more. We eat and listen to similar things and feel similar things.
There are many people who consider doing something alone as a sign of being alone and feel sorry for you.
So I think there are many of you who still feel awkward about eating alone.
But if you do not know the beautiful shade of solitude that falls on life, you cannot be said to have lived life properly. Time spent together brings joy to the hearts of two people, but time spent alone elevates the soul to a higher level.
A person who has not stood alone before a certain moment that penetrates life has no right to talk about life. This is because you can have time to look at yourself for a long time when you are alone. This is because you can feel and enjoy a moment as your own, whether it is extreme despair or shining joy.
The Indians lived a life where the tribe got along together without boundaries, but it is said that they replaced the coming-of-age ceremony by sending boys who had reached a certain age to the mountains alone for a few days.
When monks enter the monastic life, they look at the wall, not each other’s faces.
Trees that grow separately, not in a group, can enjoy the sunshine and rain alone.
All of these things may be due to one reason.
If there are things that you miss because you are alone, there are also things that you don’t see when you are with others.
I hope that those of you who are here today will be able to face your own face, which becomes clearer through solitude.
Everyone, don’t be afraid to be alone.
Don’t try to avoid the loneliness that comes naturally.
After those moments, you will surely be more mature.
Please, everyone, rather than hiding in the forest and becoming a tree that loses its color and blends in, live a life that is a little apart and focuses on yourself.
Thank you for listening.